Taming the anger within children
It can be frustrating and upsetting as a parent if your child exhibits anger issues. Anger itself is a powerful emotion, and can have a huge impact on other people. Controlling outbursts of anger can prove to be difficult for children to handle, depending on their age they may not be physically, or mentally capable of handling an emotion as powerful as anger. The good news is there are a few things as a parent you can do to help your children learn to handle this emotion.
Lead by example
It’s important to show your child by example just how one tames and controls their anger. Do not react in such a way to show you get upset or lose control of your temper easily. This will only show your child this is the way to react in those types of situations. It’s important to keep your cool, no matter what the circumstance is and show your children just how you keep a lid on your anger.
Learn early warning signs
Children are too young to recognize anger at times. Many times they already act out before they really know what took place. Learning the early warning signs will help children become much more aware of the feelings they are having. This will in turn help them to get control of these feelings. Look for warning signs such as
- Growls or deep breathing
- Rolling their eyes, squinting or other expressions
- Clenching teeth
- Intensified speech
- Mean words or a change in the tone of voice
- Whining or yelling
Learning to recognize signs such as their will help you stop the situation before it gets any worse, and teach your child how to deal with the feelings that they are experiencing.
Talk about anger
Sit down and talk with your kids one on one, and try to find out what makes them angry. By learning to recognize the triggers of their anger you can better help them learn a different way of handling the situation should it arise in the future.
Take a break
Teach your children how to take a break or step back from the situation when they find themselves getting angered or frustrated.
The majority of anger issues in children work themselves out as they grow and mature more. When they are more mature they are better capable of understanding what makes them tick and how to handle it. If however you are noticing other signs associated with anger issues such as hurting themselves or others, than you may want to take a step in speaking with their doctor about the behavior. It’s important to make sure your children are safe and sound, even when angry.
We want to hear from you
What methods and techniques have you used to help your children learn to control their anger? At what age have you found anger issues to be more prevalent?