When your child is making poor choices and acting out, it’s easy to let shame eat you up inside. You wonder, “Where have I gone wrong as a parent? Why is he behaving this way?” And, “What must other people be thinking?” The danger here is that these feelings can create a negative cycle. When you operate out of fear and shame—rather than out of clear objectivity and care for your child—not only will you feel awful, you can also become ineffective as a parent. If this sounds familiar (as it does for so many of us) let’s see what you can do to break the cycle.
Shame: Lurking below the Surface
When we’re happy, we laugh or feel a sense of wellbeing. When we’re angry or afraid, we get a jolt of adrenalin. But shame doesn’t always make itself known—rather, this destructive emotion tends to swim under the surface. Read More: Reblogged from Empowering Parents
In what ways do you deal with the negative comments from others about your child’s behavior?